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Greetings Blogging Buddies!

We had our 20 week appointment this morning. I'll write more about Zach from home. I'd like to post pictures with his update, but I wanted to get out some OB frustration while I take a quick little snack break at work.

I love my OB/GYN. I started seeing him when I was having some female problems, and when faced with surgery he had an unbeatable bedside manner. Aside from doing everything else before even mentioning surgery, when I was wheeled into the O.R., I was crying (I'm scared to death of stuff like that) and Dr. Moore came over and held my hand until I drifted off into the wonderful land of nod. This man was my hero!!!!

Now, many of you may be aware that I'm a little disgruntled about my birth experience with Olivia. Not only do I feel that the C-section was unnecessary, but I'm still hung up on the fact that I don't feel like Dr. Moore even wants me to attempt a VBAC delivery. I've talked to him about this several times, and each time he just says, "We'll have to see." Until last time...when I gained a few extra pounds and he warned that extra weight gain could make VBACs a little more difficult. Finally! He said something that made me feel like he was hearing what I was saying! He's going to let me try a VBAC!!

Well, today we had a routine ultra sound. Everything's great, but the technician said that we may need to come back in and have some more measurements taken (I'll give details later.) Well, Dr. Moore buzzed in and didn't even acknowledge what the tech had found. I had to ask him, and then he acted bothered by my question.

Then, when he asked if I had any questions, I posed one that Josh and I had been concerned about. You see, we've been feeling Zach move now for about 2 1/2 weeks. Well, about a week ago, we went about 2 days without feeling anything. I tried all of the tricks...tall glass of OJ and vegging on the couch - no movement. Well, I'd like to think that Josh and I are smart parents, and I don't think that we worry unnecessarily, so we figured that he was just too small to feel every little turn or kick. Well, when I asked Dr. Moore at what point I should be worried, he spoke to me as if I was creating some sort of unnecessary drama!!

Ladies, I'm not some freakish mom who likes to create worry. In fact, the less worry for our famliy the better! But I didn't think that it was unrealistic to ask how much movement (or how little movement) I should be feeling at this stage. I'm not concerned about the baby....trust me...he's quite a kicker! But I felt as if my questions weren't validated by my doctor!

So, here's the question. Am I being a sensitive pregnant mother, or should I consider talking to my doctor about my concerns. I know most of you will probably say, "Talk to him!" But for those of you who know me, I'm very shy about speaking out of turn with people of authority! I means he's a doctor...and I certainly don't want for him to think that I don't have faith in his capabilities. However, I badly want a healthcare provider who is willing to spend the time with us and help us to feel comfortable. At this point, I just wish I could see nothing but midwives! They are soooo much more personable!

I see another doctor for the first time next week. I didn't click with him when I saw him with Olivia, but my good friend uses him and she likes him a lot. Perhaps I could run some of my concerns by him.

Thanks for letting me vent, and we'll try to get Zach's pics up tonight. If you have any thoughts...throw them my way...even if you do think that I'm being sesitive for no reason!!